It's just Me

Ok so I'm going to tell a story and it's going to start out with you probably thinking, "Kristi, why are you telling me this?" But it has a point so stick with me through the details because they really make the story what it is.

I started working back at the Roadhouse. Now those of you who know me well know what kind of a place it is and what kind of people work there (not all but most, I don't want to stereotype so keep in mind there are a few who aren't as I'm going to tell you.) There's a boy Justin. He's mean to me. He's really really really mean to me. He was the first time I worked there and he is now. I don't really care because I'm used to it and just ignore it. It does kind of hurt just because he's not really mean to anyone else, he really is somewhat of a nice guy to people and most people like him. I think that's why he doesn't like me, because I don't like him like I want him to like him. He flirts with me and I dont flirt back and I think he gets irratated because he's not used to not having a girl fling herself at him (i forgot to mention Justin is a very good looking fella) Well, I don't fling myself at him and i think that annoys him so he doesn't know how to react and is mean to me. (Basically his way of flirting with me)

So my first night back at the Roadhouse and lo and behold who is waiting at the door as I walk in. Justin. He hugs me and picks me up and says he missed me blah blah blah. I get annoyed. Not a good way to start at the Roadhouse. But at least he was being nice right? The night goes on and he's fairly nice to me and I'm thinking this might work out all right. So I look up to the bar and I see a guy that used to work at the Roadhouse when I first started working there a year ago. We chat and he's nice and it was nice to see him again. I go wait my tables as normal. I go back to the bar and this guy looks at me then says

"I have to ask you a question"

"Ok" I say "What is it?"

"Are you a virgin?" he asks. Ok now i know you're thinking wow too many details but you have to know all the details for later in the story. I look at him and say "Justin told you to ask me this didn't he?" Because I just had a gut feeling that Justin was behind it and not this nice guy. He says yes and it annoys me that Justin would care. I say "yes I am a virgin and you can tell Justin that because I really don't mind him knowing that." He just smiles. Justin didn't talk to me all night.

Two weeks later and nothing really had come of any of that and I was kind of glad because I just didn't want to deal with Justin. Well, Friday night it came up while we were working. Justin made a crude sexual comment and I gave him a look of disgust and he didn't know how to reply. So, the meaness in him comes out. He says

"Oh, you little virgin wouldn't understand, would you?" And proceeds to tell all the guys that I am in fact a virgin. You would think this guy had never talked to someone who hadn't had sex. And yes I apolagize for the graphicness but I really am getting somewhere with this. It's get spiritual here soon, I promise.

All the guys were mean and vicious about it and even this one guy Erik made fun of me too, which suprised me cause he seemed like a nice guy. Well, it turns out he is in fact a very nice guy. Today at work he came up to me and said he needed to talk. Here's the conversation...

"So, about Friday night" he says.

"Yeah, what about it?" I say.

"Is the reason that you haven't had sex because of your spiritual beliefs"

Me, shocked that he asked this smiled and said "Yes, it is. I am a Christian and I don't believe in sex before marriage."

He smiled and said " You know, I'm sorry about last night and I'm sorry the guys gave you a hard time. I really respect your decision. It's harder not to have sex while everyone else is then to just give in and do it, and I really respect your decision. What church do you go to?" he asked.

" I go to the AC church in Morton. Do you go to church?"

"Yes, I go to Riverside. I have relatives in the AC church. I think I really like that church. It's strict, but it seems as if everyone really sticks to what they believe in. I really like how they do marriages too." He proceeds to explain how one of his relatives asked for one of the girls in the church. He thought it was amazing that they could trust God that much. (The guy he was speaking of didn't hardly know the girl but really believed he should ask for her.) He really liked that idea of leaving it all to God and knowing He will work it out. He loved that they were both so focused on God, and he could tell that's what kept the two of them together. Their belief in God and trust in Him and it made their relationship stronger.

Ok, by this point I'm shocked that I am having this spiritual conversation with this guy at work. He then went on to tell me how he almost went into the ministry not to long ago, but is struggling now. He is in a relationship with a girl at work and he is trying to get her to go to church with him and just change how their relationship is. It kind of ended there and we didn't get a chance to talk anymore. It was more just me listening to him talk and inputting little things here and there. But how exciting. I could tell he was convicted and wanted to learn more and I was just happy that this was happening at work. it kind of makes me feel better about going back to work because maybe God put me there for a reason. He knew Erik would be there and He knows how he is struggling right now and is not surrounded by any Christians anywhere. I am pretty much the only one. (Well, he has his church so I'm not the only one) but he's not with his church a lot.

So, Justin's meanness showed Erik that I was a Christian and that he could talk to me. If it weren't for Justin and him asking me the question, who knows if Erik and I ever would have talked about this. I would have never ever thought that I could witness at work, but God showed me I can.

Ohhhhhh and then, I was reading John 4 and in my little sidenotes from one of the verses it said "You can witness to anyone, anywhere" Wow, God really knew what was going on today, and was reminding me that work doesn't have to be about just work, it should be about Him too and i think I forget that because of the atmosphere I am in.

So I know this was a bunch of rambling but I hope it made sense because this really was an awesome God-thing. If you have any questions because it didn't make sense just let me know and I'll explain. Please pray for Erik and his girlfriend and me. I need to have the strength to pursue this and talk to him more about it. I'll update as more happens.

Love you all,
Kristi